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Well, I am a female...and i wonder how you feel about her. do you still respect her? If you don't, that is already the kiss of death for your relationship...that comes first before anything else.

On the other hand, even though you may be hurting now...it will open up new doors for you and you will find someone truly special for you.

I have had more women rip my heart out than I have slept with. What's up wit dat?

Some things are lost causes, so be emotionally prepared to lose her, and know that as you age, as a man, you become much more attractive to women even into your 60's if you take care of yourself. And know that she is getting less attractive to men- a chicks desireability peaks around 20.

But in order to try and win/keep her, you have to be a MAN. And you have to play the game. Ignore her. Be busy. Have something else that you need to do rather than be with her. Either she will think you have something more important and you will gain higher status in her eyes, or she will go where her 2timing heart is wanting to go already.
I am dead serious my man. If she wants to go out Friday, you have other plans. NOT SURFING THE NET, BUT GOING OUT TYPE PLANS.
Don't call her, don't get her flowers, don't care, SHE WILL EITHER BE YOURS, OR SHE IS ALREADY GONE.
Now, don't be rude, just be busy, and have something more important you need to do.

Remember, she ain't all that.
good luck.

Believe me, you're not alone in going through such things, and I know personally how much betrayals and similar things can be painful and even affect much of one's life for a time. Maybe she's just curious and gaining some impulsive "self-esteem" from flirting (which probably isn't right anyway), and maybe it's a sign that it's time to take a painful short-term loss right now to find someone who treats you right later in the long-term. If it's not working, it just means you have someone far more incredible later that you may have not even met yet, and the new relationship will be even better than what you've known. A good person, in my opinion, values their relationships and the people who've been honorably committed to them, and those that don't just have a lot more learning to do on their own. Though it might be a passive strategy, it may be time to walk away and do your own thing. If she doesn't come back on her own and realize her human mistakes and your worth, it will be her loss. On the other hand, perhaps your natural and healthy jealousy is causing you to read too much into the truth of what's really occurring. Impossible to know from here. Think long-term. Looks like she's thinking short-term from what you've said, and people tend to pay for that, and only change via firsthand experience over time. If something inappropriate is going on, she owes it to you after three years to be honest, direct, responsible, and up-front. Of course, if she could do things like that in the first place, you probably wouldn't have a problem. The seed planted today is the one to bear fruit tomorrow. Best regards and sympathies....

talk to her about it first, then reguardless of what happens with her go kick his ass, if you loose the fight ohh well the only way to get good at fighting is to do it. and to qoute fight club "how much can you really know about yourself if you have never been in a fight?" or something like that

Where were these great suggestions when I had problems with my gf? :wink:
But really. Communication is the key here.
Make sometimes and talk to her. ASk her to honestly tell you what she feels about the relationship. If she wants to part--which means that she has been contemplating the idea for a while now. It's not just an impulsive thing that chic just want to leave a long-term relationship every second--let her go. Don't plead, beg or be emotional about it.
Ask to if she has seriously considered it.
If she decides to break up then break up.
The point is don't ever allow her to get back after she "tried out" her new relationship and it didn't break out.
Remember "a cheater is always a cheater." :wink:
Chances are since you guys been together for three years you'll get back and break up a couple of times before you do it for good. It's just a natural human thing of hope/bondage/familiary territory/separation anxiety thing. good luck!

First, you should probably learn how to talk, or type, whichever it is

I would like to thank all in here 4 your help about my problem.

Thx a lot! That had helped much.

i'll tell you what to do. youve been going out for like 3 years right? you hang around each other alot right? well one day tell her you don't feel good or something and say why don't you just go out with your friends or something because i don't want you to get sick also. then get in your car and go sit in her driveway wait to see if she leaves if she does follow her and see if she meets up with the other guy. if so i would get a baseball bat and beat both of them because he knows she has a bf and she is cheating or you could shoot them. if you really love each other. i mean if my gf who i've been going out with for 2 years cheated on me i would shoot her and the guy then go and shoot her friends and stuff cuz chances are they knew about it too and didn't tell you. if she does nothing i think you can say she is pretty good gf. i mean what if he is just a friend. or you could just try to keep her away from the guy. do go where he is and make sure she stays with you. keep your friends close and your enemies closer